Me, Myself & I.

Firstly I’m going to apologise for the cliche title, it’s fairly well used, but I feel it’s appropriate for my next post.

Too many of us focus on other people. Other people opinions, thoughts, looks, judgements. A lot of us may have someone we don’t like, that has hurt us, cheated on us, used us, made us feel small and our first reactions to this are “what did I do wrong?!”, “what has she got that I haven’t?” “Am I too fat”, etc etc. We compare ourselves to something or someone else because they have failed us, and wonder what we did wrong.

Life will always throw us hardballs and none of us are perfect, so try to remember, even when someone has hurt you deeply, that everyone is going through some kind of battle. So try to be the best YOU can be because that is your karma. Leave them to decipher their own karma.

Being hurt and wounded, opens up a lot of internal battles, it can lead to hate, spite, anger. However these are all things that are ultimately in your control, you can choose to let them devour you, or you can devour those bad emotions and feelings and turn them into positive energy.

So wake up this morning and think about YOU. You DREAMS, your GOALS, your ASPIRATIONS. Think about how YOU are going to achieve them and not how someone else will affect your life.

I’m not saying it is simply that easy to forgive, forget, remove pain and anger, but it starts with YOU, not them. They may never be sorry for what they did, they may never change, but those things are out of your control.

Your happiness is.

Happy Monday 🙂

Forward thinking….

So I’ve been very busy lately and haven’t had a lot of time to post, a few things have happened over the last few months that have got me thinking about how we, as human beings, deal with a lot of various situations.

One thing I hand on heart believe is that:

“Things do not change, we change.” —Henry David Thoreau

We are a product of our thoughts, actions, reactions, ways and everything we do in life. This makes us who we are… but what happens when you get a little lost.

I have experienced a few very testing things over the last 6 months of my life and I have done and said things to people I am not proud of. This is something in retrospect I know isn’t me, however, I let myself be a person I wasn’t proud of because of other peoples inner trials.

When you think about moving forward remember… this is just a small slice of your life. So the pain, may it be very real and present to you at the time, it will not always be.

Another life lesson that I stand by is that “a problem will keep repeating itself until the lesson is learnt”. Whatever personal lesson that might be.

Life is life. We will always have trials, pain and suffering but what we must remember in these low moments is that we will also always have happiness, love and warmth. So next time you feel low or are feeling slightly lost, pick up a pen and write a list of 5 things that are good in your life. Count your blessings, not your sorrows, because with and open heart and an open mind you will attract happy people into your life. If you train yourself to consistently be more loving in thoughts and actions, your energy will attract more positive people and positive results. As Albert Einstein said, “You can’t solve a problem by staying in the same energy in which it was created.”

As for myself, I have had someone constantly pulling me in a downwards direction for a long time and it took me getting to breaking point to realise that sometimes people are only meant to be in your life to teach you something and not to necessarily stay for the rise. However, when someone hurts you in a way where you feel you need revenge and feel resentment.
Keep in mind a fabulous Carrie Fisher quote: “Resentment is the poison you swallow hoping the other person will die.” Recognize that when you resent someone, you are not only hurting yourself, you’re also giving this person control of your emotions.

Stop allowing someone else so much control over your life. Take a few deep breaths and remember that you are in control of your happiness… you and only you. You decide who you let in and who you don’t.

Just remember you are right where you are suppose to be, many Buddhists consider huge difficulties to be a sign you’re an old soul—the bigger your misfortunes, the closer you are to enlightenment. Whether you believe this or not, it’s certainly cheery to reframe all your life’s bad events as tests of your character. If you feel particularly tested right now, ask yourself what the heck you’re being tested for! Patience? Compassion? Resilience? Forgiveness? Open-mindedness? What strengths must you develop further? Now consciously go out there and develop them!

Because of course “The best is yet to come.” —Frank Sinatra